Lesson 2: The Pressure to Be Something You Are Not

In the last lesson, we learned about the six Silent Master images and how they mirror your true essence and inner power. We also covered that it takes an active effort to surface the Silent Master because pre-existing self-concepts borne from outside influences obstruct your ability to hear it.

Before you can begin to unlock this power, we will take a closer look at the philosophy and how the Silent Master came to be so that you may better apply the idea in your own life.

Key Concepts

Why is it “silent?”

If you already have all this power available to you, then why haven’t you been able to instinctively been able to bring it out so that all of your problems get solved? The truth is that the Silent Master has always been there, and it is only silent when we are simply not aware of it. We call it the Silent Master because it remains quiet after years of neglect, while in its place we rely on those who help us in the early stages of our lives. But at one point, we no longer have the luxury to rely on others and must find our own way through the world. So the real question is not “Where has my Silent Master been all these years?” The question is “Where have you been?”

Conception

From the day we are born, we are continuously forming concepts about ourselves.

One way to understand this is to take a look at your childhood. You learn the concept that you are “dependent” on those taking care of you. And to reciprocate, you begin adopting their beliefs and expectations, reinforcing your own behaviors when they tell you what is “good” and what is “bad.”

This expands later on when you begin to socialize in group settings and feel pressured to conform to the standards of others in order to “fit in.”

Consider how this also affects your professional life, and how we go to great pains to create a favorable personal “brand” that you feel will put you at an advantage.

Choice

These conceptions have a great impact on how your life unfolds. The adopted beliefs and expectations begin informing your choices, resulting in “no-brainer” moments that may not reflect what you actually sought as an outcome.

Can you truly say you are fulfilled if you chose to become a doctor or lawyer when you really wanted to design cars? Why did you pursue a career in medicine or law? Was it because it was a ticket to a comfortable life? Who told you that you would find comfort there?

The pressure to be something you are not doesn’t necessarily stop when you are an adult. Even at work, we look to our mentors and our close confidants for guidance on the way forward. But they are not you, and can only provide wisdom based on an incomplete picture of who you are.